738 (CHRISTIAN MORALITY/ PSYCHOLOGICAL VIOLENCE/ VIOLENCE IN THE FAMILY-WORK/ BULLYING/ ZEALOTRY)
“Although the tongue has no bones, it breaks bones!!!”
Both the
entries in this P.A. 738 and the above
wise proverb of our people
speak for themselves, so I will
not analyze them one by one…
What I would like to
point out and
conclude, is that, certainly and above all, we would
not want to
belong to those who
practice and
act the above… just as, on the contrary, we would
not want to be
‘victims’ or
recipients of such
immoral and
unethical actions on the part of
such people…
Unfortunately, my brothers, the
Orthodox Christian ethos!!! is absent today!!!
(1)
And, how
inappropriate is it,
really, to see the absence of
morality (ethos) also from these so-called
“religious” people (!!!) – that is, from people who are
considered and
present themselves as people, supposedly, of
the… “Church” (!!!)
I am not exaggerating at all when
I liken a person who
practices psychological violence or
aggression or
oppression, either in his
family or in his
working environment or in his
relations with his
fellow human beings…, I am not exaggerating at all, I say, if I
equate this
person with a…
murderer!!! And I know very well what I am saying and what I am suggesting…
Do not think that, “but I am
not acting like this…” If you exert
psychological violence to another person, if you
distress him
often… and he
falls ill and
dies, then you are a
murderer!
You may
fast, even abstaining from
oil…; make
penances and
genuflections as many as you like…; attend
vigils…; make frequent
confessions…; partake
Holy Communion frequently…; read and master the
Holy Fathers…
I ASSURE you that:
If you do not have the Christian ethos,
which is
characterized by
discretion, moderation, kindness, humility, compassion, delicacy, moral modesty (both in
speech and in
conduct) and, above all, if you do
not have
genuine and
true Christian courtesy… – and instead, you
practice, as I said above,
psychological violence and
oppression (
bullying, we would say today) either to your
family (2) or to any of your
fellow human beings…, I assure you, if you are
such a person – even if
you present yourself as
“religious”(!!!)- you will at the end of the day be very
hateful to God, who will
vomit you in the
afterlife, sending you “away” from
His presence…
And
where else, tell me man, will you go to
‘hide’ from
Him, when
God is omnipresent???(!!!)…
And where else will you
be sent…, but in the
eternal fire of hell, there to
intermingle with
others like you, the
murdering demons!!!
I will end with my beloved phrase:
Let us stand well, let us stand with fear.
(1) It is
true, my brothers, that the
Orthodox Christian ethos…, has vanished today…, or at least, it has become
hard to find!!!
I say this to
our shame; those who
certainly have the
Christian ethos and
kindness are the children with the so-called
down syndrome!
(Do not find what I say paradoxical! Please know that the “problem” of these children is of the
brain, i.e. the
body, and not of the
mind, i.e. of the
soul. Their
mind (nous) is
perfect in all respects! These
children in the
life to come will be
fine!!!… and, in fact, they will
advance to a
high mental state… It is
us perhaps that we may have the
“down syndrome” in the
next life!!! Do you understand?)
The absence of Christian ethos is also present in the so-called
zealots, i.e. those who present themselves as being of the
Church and having
God’s zeal, but
“not really
enlightened” (Rom. 10:2). They are in an
erroneous “religious” state…, i.e. while they present themselves as
“genuine” and
“patristic”(!)…, nevertheless they do not have
any ethics!!! So, we see in them the
absence of the
minimal elementary politeness… There are so
many of them around… They are the ones who do the
greatest damage to the
Church!!!
(2) Violence in the
family is not only when the husband
beats his wife (which is always
repulsive, unacceptable and
immoral!!!)…
Violence in the
family can also
be psychological violence…, psychological oppression, the
debilitation of the
spouse; the
insulting, demeaning, blaming, accusing and
belittling her (or him) to the
children; the
attribution of
sole responsibility, guilt or
blame for something, to the point that the
accused feels devastated, humiliated, exhausted… and, on top of that, to
delude ourselves that we are
good Christians (!!!) Yes, all the above also
constitute violence in the
family!!!
And again I hear someone say: “
But I do not do that!”
My fellow
Christian, this
lack of
respect; and of
politeness; and
contradiction (i.e. you contradict your
parents or respectable people);
criticism and
unjust judgment against
a man of God (
deluding yourself that you are more
correct than
he is,
easily condemning him for something he
does, although he may
have his
God-sent reason for doing it); but this is how
you have learned, “
to judge (and condemn) everything and everyone…” All this, I say,
constitutes a
lack of Christian morality (ethos) and in fact what you succeed… is to
condemn yourself…
Still, you may not
verbally insult your neighbour; but you may
offend him
indirectly or “
talk down to him” or – worst of all –
leave insinuations…against him!!!
These, too,
constitute violence, either in the
family, or at
work or generally in
society… not to say that this
kind of
violence is
worse and more
painful than the
face-to-face insult!!!
God save us from such a
moral decline!!!